Tell me, how are you today?

When we acknowledge our feelings, we become more self-aware, more self-compassionate, and we turn vulnerability into courage. In reality, how often do we talk about how we’re truly feeling? 

When someone asks you ‘how are you today?’

option A: I just lost my job. I feel like a loser.
option B: I’m doing fine. How about you? 🙂

 … sometimes the space and timing just isn’t right.

More teens and young adults today are sharing their feelings online, in game chatrooms, online forums, and of course on various social media platforms. They’re shouting for help, they need more emotional support!

We listened and we created an alternative safe space for teens and young adults to talk 24/7, via an A.I. platform with zero human involvement in order to protect their privacy.  

Ollie, an A.I. chatbot with feelings, intends to build a personal relationship with users, to help them cope with any distress they may encounter, eg: work stress, procrastination, body image and feelings of hopelessness.

Here is an example of a random chat with Ollie.

Your memory is who you are now

Our brains are constantly altering the past so they don’t conflict with the present. Our emotions change the stories stored in our memories every time when we recall them.

When we first lay down a memory, it takes the brain a little while to solidly store the information—a process called consolidation. And every time we subsequently recall that memory, it has to go through a new storage process—another slight delay for another consolidation. During that window, new information can interfere with the old information and alter the memory. Liz Phelps, a professor of psychology and neural science at New York University focuses her research on how learning and memory are changed by emotions. She explains why our memories can be so malleable in an engaging video called “Controlling Our Fears,”

Healthier arguing in just 3 sec

Dos

Take turns talking.

Set aside your defensiveness and judgement.

Acknowledge each other’s feelings and viewpoints.

Take a time out.

Don’ts

Don’t bring up past issues, also remove “always” from your sentences.

Don’t escalate the conversation by raising your voice.

Don’t forget that you’re a team after all.

PTSD is closer to us than we think

Post-traumatic stress disorder, also called PTSD, is a mental health condition that many of us consider to be far away from our lives because it’s usually associated with war heroes. In fact, PTSD can be caused by various events such as severe illness, childhood abuse, witnessing a death or a car accident.

1 in 8 children suffer enough trauma to long lasting negative effects, both mental and physical, into adulthood. These children can expect to experience a lifespan 20 years shorter than their peers. A lot of people didn’t realize they are actually living with PTSD day to day until they learn about various PTSD symptoms that can be mistaken with being oversensitive, bad tempered, having weird habits or prone to overreaction.

In general, PTSD is characterized by intrusive thoughts, nightmares, and flashbacks of past traumatic events. Sometimes it isn’t so obvious. PTSD may cause difficulties remembering important aspects of the traumatic event. The physical reactions to reminders of trauma are often overlooked and brushed off as being overly sensitive or emotional. Check out this TEDx talk by Dani Bostick, where she shares her story of how she discovered her PTSD thirty years after abuse during her childhood. 

Remember, you are not alone in your experience. Having a candid conversation about your concerns is already winning half of the battle.

When Barbie feels blue

Sometimes we wake up in the morning and feeling blue for no good reason. It’s completely OK! You’re definitely not alone in this. Many of us have experienced the same, even Barbie. Yes, that gorgeous blond, always smiling, perfect looking Barbie doll. Here are some things Barbie does to cheer herself up!